The other day I was out shopping and overhead a conversation between two girls. One of them was pregnant and the other clearly wasn’t. The pregnant girl told her friend that she can’t wait for when her child pops out. She elaborated about how she is tired of carrying a child around. Personally, I can empathize with this woman in some aspects. I am currently 8 months pregnant and experience some discomfort, but nothing to the point of wishing this state to be ended.
The next day, my husband and I went to the farmers marketing and once again, I saw a woman about as far along in pregnancy as I. She too looked gloomy. In all these cases, when the husband was present with their wives, they seemed distant, almost like strangers.
Because of this, I started to question why this is? In my personal experience, there is nothing more uplifting than looking down at your own belly and seeing it moving in different directions. Up, down side-to-side, no matter what the movement was, just knowing that there is another human being created is breathtaking, to say the least.
Knowing that the universe trusted you with a soul that you would need to usher in life is something that I can’t quite describe in words. You are given the responsibility to bring a man or women into the world that you can be proud of. You are given an opportunity to unleash your feminine power through birth. Things like this, don’t need to be rushed. They should be savored and cherished. Enjoy the experience! Enjoy the moment.
Now I pose the question: Why don’t women see their pregnancy as a blessing? Something beautiful? As their purpose? Why is it easier to say: Look at what you’ve done to me?
Why can’t we just be happy while we are pregnant even if a pregnancy sometimes can be challenging? Why do we start to hate our bodies?
Unfortunately or fortunately, depending on how you look at it, the answers to the posed questions are very easy. A lot of us live in constant denial. We lack the ability to face ourselves. We need to learn things on our own.
Why do you think people get pregnant? Is it to have your boyfriend propose to you? Is it to stop your husband from walking out on you? No, my dear readers, no. Before we take on the responsibility of bringing a newborn baby into our lives we truly need to work on ourselves and understand if we’re ready. If you are bringing a life into this world for any ulterior motives then you clearly don’t understand and are coming from a place of spite and desperation.
Nowadays, self-help literature is very popular and people are looking for answers. The problem is that the people who write these books aren’t experts. They are also broken inside in many cases. Women are very powerful creatures – more powerful than men. However, that power only blooms if we have a grasp on ourselves and what it means to be a woman.
Once we understand that we can use that power to make our own lives better, as well as the lives of those around us, including men and our children. As the old saying goes: behind every great man is a great woman.
So now I advise you, clean your soul, clean your mind. Clean yourself of all the trash that has been accumulating over the years. Let yourself embrace love. Be loved, give love to others and yourself. Straighten your values and organize your desires. Prioritize what you truly want in life and go for it. Don’t be afraid of hurdles on your way in the beginning. Once you have a grasp on all this, you will be ready to guide a family through life.
