We are often faced with situations in our life where we have had great sexual relationships in the beginning of a relationship; talking, spending time together and just being very close in general. Then, after a while having it all of that fade away. Sometimes women question themselves, thinking “Why has he stopped paying attention to me? Is he not attracted to me anymore? Is there something wrong with me or it is him?” and much more. Nevertheless, couples start having troubles because of that initial closeness fading.

Let’s look at it more closely. What is truly needed to feel attached and close to your spouse?
Every woman wants to feel loved, desired, and sexually attractive.

In many cases, women have certain “standards” for being in a relationship, such as: how many times during a week a couple should have sex. Once a week is okay but if they haven’t had it for more than a two or three weeks, it creates anxiety. It makes her feel as if something is wrong. It brings her a sense of vulnerability and lack of structure.

Let’s think about the idea of manipulation through sex.

Manipulation through sex is a major part of our society and because of this, a woman fears to lose control over a man when sex is no longer a primary part of the relationship…On the other hand, there are women who truly want to have a loving, close relationship and do really need sexual contact because through it they derive enjoyment, pleasure; therefore, they blossom, are happy, smiley and of course, just a pleasure to be around.

So, before we start working on ourselves, we need to figure out first what drives us to desire sex. Based on an answer, we need to alter either our actions or our beliefs.

A true relationship is only possible if a woman is enjoying sex as a form of closeness, giving herself without expectations or conditions. Only then will a man desire her as a woman. If she wants to manipulate the relationship through sex, it is not going to bring her her full desires and therefore will not help the relationship in any aspect. We all need to learn how to give without wanting anything in return.

Unfortunately, we live in a society that popularizes the importance of money and the importance of the idea “MY way or the highway.” Relationships formed these days are often based on some kind of ulterior motive. Because of this, we are left with a society of people who are deathly afraid of any kind of relationship. Media and propaganda have distorted the idea of a relationship to a point that many fail to have a full understanding of what is needed to create a long-lasting relationship.

We have forgotten how to come home and just hug our spouse – just because. Instead, we expect them to hug us. We don’t buy presents just because, we wait for an event or occasion, and wait for a spouse do the same and so on…Where do you see love and giving?